Looking around in this chaotic world, it is obvious that everyone is embraced by many grave problems and is working tirelessly to make peace with his unwelcoming situation. When the problems and setbacks prolong, a person thinks of himself as a victim at the hands of his life. Ultimately, humans start taking pride in bearing the tyranny, life has inflicted upon them in comparison to others and the notion of self-victimization generates. Self-victimization defines as seeing oneself as the most pitied in terms of the hardships borne and assuming that life is always against you, devoid of any happiness. Self-victimization encases the mind and a person is bound to put self-esteem aside and advertise his personal problems to earn condolences.

Self-victimization may seem an easy path to gain attention and love but in long run, it completely shatters you like a disease that affects every part of your body negatively and destroys your mental health. So, it is essential to learn about it and try to stay away from this toxin. Moreover, when you continuously self-victimize yourself and crave attention, people get disturbed by your insensible behavior and distance themselves leading to loneliness and depression.

Causes of self-victimization

 Past trauma or abuse

It is true that post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a big deal for a victim of past trauma e.g sexual abuse, prolonged captivity, or betrayal from loved ones, but instead of recurring the dilemma, one should always look out for ways to help himself as it is said God helps those who help themselves. Also, a self-effacing person will always seek professional help rather than turn to the doors of random people, just to advertise the pain and practice self-victimization.

Escape harsh judgment

When a self-victim starts portraying himself as a person drowned in many problems, society starts to sympathize with him. As a result, if a person commits an immoral act, self-victimization saves him from being entitled as a bad person. 

Lack of self-confidence

When you don’t believe in your potential and the ability to bounce back if faced with a failure, you try to grab people’s attention by telling them the story of oppression blaming everyone except yourself which becomes the foundation of self-victimization.

Symptoms of self-victimization

As said before, self-victimization is a disease so it is no secret that it has many symptoms which are:

Afraid of constant change

Some people always want to be enclosed in the cocoon of certainty. Well, this is impossible and at certain times life becomes so unpredictable that some people feel powerless over it. This makes them anxious and they start to think of themselves as a victim at the hands of their lives.

Enjoy sharing tragic incidents of life.

Are you the one who always keeps reliving past painful memories and enjoy sharing them with the world with a good cry? Then without a doubt, you are a self-victim. Everybody is not your well-wisher and some people experience happiness seeing you suffer so, it is important to see with whom you are sharing your problems.

How to deal with it

Talk to the loved ones

Yes, share your problems with loved ones only who might be your parents, friends, spouse, or anyone close to you. They are always there to tell you that you are loved and cared for by giving you the best advice.

Talk to a professional therapist

Instead of telling your problems to everyone and being judged it is better to get professional help. They help you calm down and find a better solution for your problems and a plus point is they keep it only to themselves making you feel comfortable.

Identify personal needs and goals

When you are self-determined to achieve an ambition, the failure doesn’t bother you anymore and you accept it as part of the journey. So, setting high goals help you see yourself as a survivor of a mishap in life and teaches you valuable lessons in life.

Practice gratitude

It is said when you practice gratitude for the things you have, you attain more blessings from which you get a plethora of contentment. This makes you come to peace with your inner self and you try to minimize the urge to advertise your problems to everyone.

Physical exercise

Your brain has a positive effect of vigorous activity and it also gives you a sense of power over your body. This positively affects your personal demeanor and helps you get out of self-victimization.

Conclusion

Self-victimization harms you physically and mentally. Moreover, you drive away people who were there to help you in the first place with constant bickering about your unjust life. The loneliness engulfs your mind in shackles of depression ultimately leading you to grave repercussions such as suicide.